For first dates and fifth anniversaries
Get to Know You Questions
Get to know you questions are not only for first dates. Even couples who have been together for years are often surprised by how much they still have to learn. People change, and the questions you asked in month one can have very different answers now.
Start with the easy questions to warm up, then move to the ones about values and life stories. Share your own answer after each one. The goal is not to collect facts but to understand the person in front of you a little better.
Easy get to know you questions
- Where did you grow up, and what was it like?
- What is your favorite way to start the day?
- What are three things always in your bag?
- What is your favorite movie of all time?
- What is your go-to comfort food?
- What is the best concert you have ever been to?
- How do you take your coffee?
- What was your first job?
- What is a hobby you have picked up recently?
- What is your favorite holiday?
- What is a book that stayed with you?
- What sport do you actually enjoy watching?
- Are you a sunrise or sunset person?
- What is your favorite smell?
- What is the last thing you bought just for fun?
Fun get to know you questions
- What is something that surprises people when they find out about you?
- What would you do with a completely free day?
- What is the most adventurous thing you have eaten?
- What is your party trick?
- What is the best costume you have ever worn?
- What was your favorite toy as a kid?
- What is something you are weirdly good at?
- What is the most embarrassing thing you did as a teenager?
- Which fictional family would you join?
- What is your favorite useless fact?
- If you had a boat, what would you name it?
- What song would you choose for karaoke?
- What is the best prank you have ever pulled?
- What is your dream vacation?
- What would be your specialty if you were a chef?
Get to know you questions about family and background
- What is your relationship like with your siblings?
- What is a family tradition you love?
- Who in your family are you most like?
- What is something your parents taught you that stuck?
- What was dinner like at your house growing up?
- What is a family story that always gets told?
- Where are your grandparents from?
- What was your neighborhood like as a kid?
- What is something from your culture you are proud of?
- Who was your favorite relative growing up?
Get to know you questions about values
- What matters most to you in life?
- What is a cause you care deeply about?
- What does a good friend look like to you?
- What is something you would never do, no matter what?
- How do you define success?
- What are you most grateful for?
- What is a quality you admire in others?
- What is something you are still figuring out?
- What do you want your life to stand for?
- How do you handle stress?
Get to know you questions for couples
- What is something about you I probably do not know yet?
- What did you think love would feel like before you experienced it?
- What is a habit of yours that you think I have not noticed?
- What is a dream you have not told me about?
- What is your favorite way to spend time with me?
- What is a part of your past you want me to understand?
- What do you love doing that we have never done together?
- What is a question you wish I would ask you?
- How have you changed since we first met?
- What is something you want to learn about me?
Get to know you questions about daily life
- What does your morning routine look like?
- What is your favorite way to unwind at night?
- What is a small daily habit you love?
- What do you usually eat for breakfast?
- What is the first app you open in the morning?
- How do you like to spend your lunch break?
- What is your favorite way to exercise?
- What is the best part of your week usually?
- How do you organize your week?
- What is your favorite local spot?
- How often do you cook at home?
- What is a chore you actually enjoy?
- What is your ideal Friday night?
- How do you celebrate small wins?
- What do you do when you cannot sleep?
- What is something you do every day without fail?
- How do you like to spend a rainy day?
- What podcast or channel do you never miss?
- What is your go-to outfit on a lazy day?
- What is your favorite way to say thank you?
- What is something that always brightens your week?
- How do you recharge after socializing?
- What is your favorite grocery store treat?
- How do you spend your Sunday evenings?
- What is the best part of your daily commute?
Bonus deck
15 more from Pairo: New Faces
- What's your honest first impression of me?
- Do I seem like more of a planner or an improviser?
- What do you think I do for a living? Guess before I tell you.
- What's something we probably have in common?
- What's the best conversation you've had with a stranger?
- What are you passionate about that most people don't know?
- What's a question you wish strangers asked you?
- What made you smile today, before this conversation?
- Where do you feel most at home in the world?
- What's a small act of kindness you never forgot?
- What are you currently trying to get better at?
- What's a belief of yours that surprises people?
- What's been the best part of your year so far?
- What has this conversation made you think about?
- What's one thing you'll remember about me?
These come from the free New Faces deck in Pairo, our card game for couples.
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Frequently asked questions
What are good get to know you questions?
Start with easy questions like where did you grow up or your favorite comfort food, then move to values and life stories once the conversation flows.
Are get to know you questions good for long-term couples?
Yes. People change over time, so long-term couples often discover new things by asking again.
How many get to know you questions should I ask on a date?
A handful is enough. Let each question lead into a real conversation and follow up on what interests you.
Is there an app to keep getting to know your partner?
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